It’s no secret that I enjoy a good reading from another psychic every now and then. It’s almost like being a massage therapist with an achy back. Even though you know how to give a killer massage, kneading on your own skin doesn’t give you as much pleasure as having another professional push and pull on it for an hour.

Sometimes I’m so emotionally immersed in a situation that I need someone else to help me see what I’m missing. So I do the same thing that you do. I call my guy up in a frenzy wondering, “Can I get an appointment TODAY???? Pullleeeeease?”

But I’m jumping ahead of myself. Obviously there are A LOT of psychics out there. Some people look for the cheapest psychic. Some people look at testimonials. Some people want a local psychic. Everybody seems to have this internal checklist.

That’s all well and good. I mean sometimes it works, and sometimes you’re left scratching your head. But I’ve found that if you want to find a great psychic, you must choose with your heart.

Comfort arrives in heartfelt connections.

There’s an elevator repair company that I walk past each morning when I’m taking my daughter to school. One of the workers has a window seat facing the street. Every morning and every afternoon we wave to each other.

I only know this guy from his spot in the window. I wave. He waves. I actually look forward to waving.

My psychic is like the guy in the window. I read his web page. I noticed that he has traveled a lot. I have too. He seemed down-to-earth… not jumping off the new age woo-woo meter. Cool. I like down to earth people. He’s a fellow city dweller. I’m a city dweller. On a heart level, we mesh. He’s kinda like me.

That makes me feel comfortable about dealing with him.

Selecting a psychic isn’t like buying a cell phone – yet that’s the way many people choose one.

Seeing a psychic is an emotional act. You are essentially placing a certain amount of your sanity and well being into another person’s hands. And whatever that person says is going to change you on a conscious and an unconscious level.

It’s okay to look at testimonials and press clips and whatever. But it’s even more important to feel a psychic out with your own heart. What’s their philosophy? What type of person are they? Do they come from a background that’s similar to your own?

Read their web site. Read between the lines. Do you feel a connection… a buzz… a tingling… a click? If you don’t, then move on.

When you find the right psychic you will know it. Your readings will be magical. You’ll understand the metaphors and the symbols. You’ll feel comfortable and comforted.

Choose from the heart and the Universe will reward you with your heart’s desire. (And yes… you’ll be able to afford it too!)

I’ve had a love-hate relationship with the iChing oracle for over 15 years. I don’t use it anymore because I prefer to exercise my psychic ability in other ways.

But in the end I found that no matter the method – be it my own innate psychic skills, the tarot cards, or just reading the signs around me – I’d always run into the same problem that would further enhance that love-hate feeling.

The problem?

I’d get the same psychic message over and over again, while the actual situation would turn out COMPLETELY different.

Oh my gosh, I’d be soooo excited about a particular relationship (because the iChing gave me a good message), only to have the whole thing blow up in my face like some kind of exploding cake on America’s Funniest Home Videos.

Why was this always happening?

It’s called the Law of Seeing What You Desire. (I made this law up!)

When we have a deep emotional attachment to the outcome of a particular situation, we will often see that outcome reflected back at us during a reading.

If you’ve been craving that promotion, a tarot card reader may very well see you getting that promotion. But in reality it might pass you by completely.

The Law of Attraction showed it to you. Reality said - “Nope.”

How can you stop this madness?

Ask for the truth and be willing to accept it.

Whenever you’re getting a reading, or reading for yourself, ask the Universe to only show you the truth.

In other words, don’t go into the reading feeling like you’re going to walk away with the answer you want. Go in strong enough to take whatever is given to you.

And trust me when I say, reading these words, and putting them into action are two very different things.

Over the years I’ve had multiple situations where I’ve gotten an upsetting response from a psychic. Then I’ll go home and pull a few tarot cards, and get a positive response. It was a bitter pill to swallow, but the psychic always ended up being right.

Asking for the truth means that sometimes you’ll walk away with a big grin on your face. Other times you’ll feel like you’ve just been stung by a jellyfish, a scorpion, and a hive full of angry bee’s – all at once.

But when you make an active choice for truth, you are always enlightened. And that’s what you have to keep in mind.

Choose truth over a quick feel-good high.